
The Sursie
Self-care for the long haul: how to build a life and legacy that are your own, pass on material AND emotional assets, and break cycles that have been going on for generations.
Tough Love Self-Care Challenge - Step One
Week One: Defining Your Core Values
🎉 Congratulations—you’ve arrived! This is Step One of the Tough Love Self-Care Challenge, and we’re diving right in.
In this step, we’re focusing on something fundamental: your personal values.Your values should shape your decisions, guide your behaviors, and i...
Mar 02, 2025
March 2025 Forecast
Every year, I perform tarot forecasts for myself, the general vibe of the West, and individuals who want 'em.
Formerly I would use the general forecast to keep my finger on the pulse of the energetic zeitgeist, but it occurs to me that you could probably use some month-by-month help, astrologica...
Mar 01, 2025
forecast
magic
tarot
My Dead Dad & the CIA
For the last few months, I’ve been going through a meditation protocol.
It’s called The Gateway, and I discovered it during a deep dive into some CIA-related affairs.
(You know how those special interests go.)
In the 1980s, the CIA got in touch with the Monroe Institute after hearing about a medi...
Feb 23, 2025
spirituality
Venus Retrograde Is Dope.
This Retrograde Rocks. Use It For Your Own Good.
Understanding Venus Retrograde
Venus, the planet of love, relationships, beauty, and finances, goes retrograde approximately every 18 months. This celestial event is an invitation to slow down, reflect, and recalibrate areas of your life gove...
Feb 20, 2025
The Tough Love Self-Care Challenge
The Tough Love Self-Care Challenge is Back!
In 2017, I had an idea: could I get 25 people to join me in a challenge about self-care—the real kind? Not the cute, Instagrammable version, but the kind that’s messy, unglamorous, and necessary.
Spoiler: it took off. Over the years, it grew, evolved, a...
Feb 19, 2025
challenges
personal values
self-care
Proverb for People-Pleasers
Proverb by my boyfriend 💫
He said this to me in 2022 when I was in a position to have some really tough conversations and own up to some things.
His main concern was not that I wouldn’t take accountability. It was that I would accept and shoulder blame that actually wasn’t mine.
It’s very impor...
Feb 16, 2025
The Relationship Check-In
It's almost Valentine's Day, and you know what that means.
...nothing. Not really. It's just a day.
But then again, so is the Winter Solstice, and I celebrate that, so the whole "it's just a day" bit is a little tenuous.
While I do not participate in the big commercial aspect of V-Day, because...
Feb 10, 2025
relationships
Mug Cake for One
This week brings Valentine's Day, and this is a day that people have big feelings around--they love it, they hate it, they hate that they love it, it's a whole thing.
Valentine's Day is a wonderful opportunity to do something sweet (ha!) for yourself, regardless of who else is around to otherwis...
Feb 02, 2025
desserts
recipes
February 2025 Forecast
Every year, I perform tarot forecasts for myself, the general vibe of the West, and individuals who want 'em.
Formerly I would use the general forecast to keep my finger on the pulse of the energetic zeitgeist, but it occurs to me that you could probably use some month-by-month help, astrologica...
Feb 01, 2025
forecast
magic
tarot
Wheel of the Year: Imbolc
Dear Friend,
As the days slowly lengthen and we move closer to spring, I wanted to share with you a little history about Imbolc, one of my favorite seasonal festivals deeply rooted in Scottish tradition. Imbolc, celebrated around February 1st, marks the halfway point between the winter solstice a...
Jan 29, 2025
entertaining
holiday
spirituality
wheel of the year
Scan Groceries MySELF? Couldn't Be Me...
Ok, this title is bait. It is what it is—sorry 'bout it.
This newsletter isn’t about whether self-checkout lines are great, horrible, ruining the country, or the best thing ever. Honestly, all of those things are true at once, so why bother arguing either side?
This newsletter is actually about m...
Jan 26, 2025
parenting
Because I Knew You
Look, I’ve never seen Wicked.
I know. I know. It’s unthinkable. It’s everything I love—Broadway, Oz, allegory, great music, campy costumes—all of it. But somehow, I never read the book, never listened to the original Broadway cast recording, never saw the show, and now…I haven’t seen the film eit...
Jan 19, 2025
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