Hey you,
We’ve been taught that good people put others first. That love means showing up, giving, anticipating needs—sometimes before they’re even spoken.
But there’s a catch. When you constantly go above and beyond for others, it’s easy to expect they’ll do the same for you.
And when they don’t? You feel disappointed, hurt, even resentful. 😤💔
In my 20s, I did this over and over again—assuming that since I was making life easier for everyone around me, they’d naturally return the favor. I never actually said anything. I just expected.
And when they didn’t meet those expectations? I was pissed. Hurt. Drained. 😮💨
But here’s the truth: No one else signed up for the silent contract I had written in my head.
When I flipped the script—prioritizing my own well-being first—I realized something big: It wasn’t other people hurting me. It was my own unspoken expectations. 💡
The hard reality: We cannot expect other people to take better care of us than we are willing to take of ourselves.
✨ Your self-care step this week:
Think of a time when someone let you down. Write it out. What were you expecting? Did you ever actually ask for it?
Naming those silent agreements is the first step toward healthier relationships—with yourself and others. 💛
Let me know what comes up for you. Hit reply—I read every message.
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