Self-Care for Millennial Women Newsletter

The Sursie

Self-care for the long haul: how to build a life and legacy that are your own, pass on material AND emotional assets, and break cycles that have been going on for generations.

This Retrograde Rocks. Use It For Your Own Good. Understanding Venus Retrograde Venus, the planet of love, relationships, beauty, and finances, goes retrograde approximately every 18 months. This celestial event is an invitation to slow down, reflect, and recalibrate areas of your life gove...

Feb 20, 2025

The Tough Love Self-Care Challenge

The Tough Love Self-Care Challenge is Back! In 2017, I had an idea: could I get 25 people to join me in a challenge about self-care—the real kind? Not the cute, Instagrammable version, but the kind that’s messy, unglamorous, and necessary. Spoiler: it took off. Over the years, it grew, evolved, a...

Feb 19, 2025 challenges personal values self-care

Proverb for People-Pleasers

Proverb by my boyfriend 💫 He said this to me in 2022 when I was in a position to have some really tough conversations and own up to some things. His main concern was not that I wouldn’t take accountability. It was that I would accept and shoulder blame that actually wasn’t mine. It’s very impor...

Feb 16, 2025

The Relationship Check-In

It's almost Valentine's Day, and you know what that means. ...nothing. Not really. It's just a day. But then again, so is the Winter Solstice, and I celebrate that, so the whole "it's just a day" bit is a little tenuous. While I do not participate in the big commercial aspect of V-Day, because...

Feb 10, 2025 relationships

Mug Cake for One

This week brings Valentine's Day, and this is a day that people have big feelings around--they love it, they hate it, they hate that they love it, it's a whole thing. Valentine's Day is a wonderful opportunity to do something sweet (ha!) for yourself, regardless of who else is around to otherwis...

Feb 02, 2025 desserts recipes

February 2025 Forecast

Every year, I perform tarot forecasts for myself, the general vibe of the West, and individuals who want 'em. Formerly I would use the general forecast to keep my finger on the pulse of the energetic zeitgeist, but it occurs to me that you could probably use some month-by-month help, astrologica...

Feb 01, 2025 forecast magic tarot

Wheel of the Year: Imbolc

Dear Friend, As the days slowly lengthen and we move closer to spring, I wanted to share with you a little history about Imbolc, one of my favorite seasonal festivals deeply rooted in Scottish tradition. Imbolc, celebrated around February 1st, marks the halfway point between the winter solstice a...

Jan 29, 2025 entertaining holiday spirituality wheel of the year

Scan Groceries MySELF? Couldn't Be Me...

Ok, this title is bait. It is what it is—sorry 'bout it. This newsletter isn’t about whether self-checkout lines are great, horrible, ruining the country, or the best thing ever. Honestly, all of those things are true at once, so why bother arguing either side? This newsletter is actually about m...

Jan 26, 2025 parenting

Because I Knew You

Look, I’ve never seen Wicked. I know. I know. It’s unthinkable. It’s everything I love—Broadway, Oz, allegory, great music, campy costumes—all of it. But somehow, I never read the book, never listened to the original Broadway cast recording, never saw the show, and now…I haven’t seen the film eit...

Jan 19, 2025

Don't Rescue the Cat

Hey you. I want to tell you a little story that might stick in your mind and pop up when you go to try and help when it would be best to simply be present and supportive -- which is more times than we think! Let me know if you have ever run to the rescue of someone because you were feeling anxiou...

Jan 12, 2025

January 2025 Forecast

It's January 10, so this is a tiny bit late, but next month's will be published on 2/1/2025 I promise xoxox Every year, I perform tarot forecasts for myself, the general vibe of the West, and individuals who want 'em. Formerly I would use the general forecast to keep my finger on the pulse of th...

Jan 10, 2025 forecast magic tarot

The Green Trash Can

Hey you. I've been thinking a lot about how unbelievably different all our experiences are, even when we experience things in groups or as a collective. (Are we friends on Threads?) We chafe against the idea that lots of things can be true at one time, even when we think we are open-minded, b...

Jan 07, 2025

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The Sursie

Self-care for the long haul: how to build a life and legacy that are your own, pass on material AND emotional assets, and break cycles that have been going on for generations.