Little Pitchers, Big Ears

Apr 20, 2025

Hoppy Easter to those who keep that calendar! 🐰💐

Last week, we talked about the 4 Sacred Times — moments when we intentionally show up for our people. (Need a refresher? Check it out here.)

This week, let’s talk about the passive ways we show up — often without even realizing it.

👉 A coaching client and I were recently untangling some behaviors she wanted to shift. We both realized: we’d been raised by mothers who made huge strides — no hitting, no cruel comments, lots of encouragement. 🙌

So why the self-loathing and perfectionism?

Because they didn’t show up for themselves.

They told us we were brilliant and beautiful — but we watched them pick themselves apart, self-sabotage, and doubt.

Kids call energetic BS, whether or not they can name it.

And this isn’t just a mom thing or a parent thing. Kids are everywhere — in your community, at the grocery store, on the sidewalk. They’re watching you.

So, what can you do?

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