Tough Love Self-Care Challenge - Step Three

Mar 06, 2025

🎉 Two days down! I know you’re rarin’ to go absolute ham on that Master List, but listen—no.

This step isn’t about doing. It’s about being.

What We’re Doing This Step

Instead of diving into tasks, we’re shifting focus to getting quiet and listening—becoming more intimately acquainted with your Higher Power.

This could be a prophet, deity, energy, cosmos, ancestor, or any concept that you understand as greater than you. For ease and authenticity, I call mine Jerry. Yep, like Jerry Gergich from Parks and Recreation. Nope, not even a little kidding.

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